Has anyone else noticed that the more arrogant, manipulative, and mean-spirited someone’s actions are, and the more games they play, the more likely it is that, in reality, that person is really insecure? And that the more kind and gentle natured someone is, the more likely it is that they are confident and comfortable with who they are? Are people really attracted to confidence, or are they attracted to the superficial appearance of confidence? When you’re acting like you have something to prove, you probably still do. So it’s not really that nice people finish last, it’s that they’ve already crossed the finish line, so they’re not even racing. They’ve been there and done that, and acting mean and negative can’t further them in any way. Some people seem to think it makes them seem smart or insightful to be critical and point out flaws, but it really just reflects an understanding of what it’s like to have and be flawed. And isn’t finding and pointing out positive aspects an indication that someone has familiarity with what it’s like to be good and talented?
So I guess my advice to everyone on here is to avoid negative people.(DERRRRRR) If someone has hurt you or used you, it was just their misguided compensation for their own insecurities. You may have seemed to them like someone they could manipulate because you weren’t the type to project yourself or play games, but the reality is that they just couldn’t understand your confidence because they weren’t there yet. Be happy that you’re better than them, and better off without them, and move on. Find someone nice. After all, your world is your mirror…make a point to smile in it.